Perhaps what contemporary Christians need is less romance and more love… Real love is unitive and community forming; it weaves people together into familial and churchly networks of mutual care and dependence on one another and on God.  Husbands and wives, neighbors and friends, children and grandchildren, widows and orphans, all are adopted by God into the household of the church and invited to love and care for one another in ways that certainly include the bonds of marriage, but include as well a range of other human relationships.

-Margaret and Dwight Peterson, Are You Waiting for “The One”?